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18 Signs of a Sexually Healthy Adult

What does healthy sexuality look like? As we've talked about before, sexuality is a complex mix of things in varying proportions for different people- things that are physical, emotional, interpersonal, cultural and more. Thus it's difficult to pin down in one all-encompassing definition. That is why The Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS) developed a list of behaviors that encapsulate what healthy sexuality can look like. There is one word you will see a lot on this list. Affirmation, which means the declaration that something is true. In other words, to express and experience sexuality in healthy ways is to positively uphold and support yourself for who you are. This is not an exhausive list (there are many things one could add). If you … [Read More...]

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4 Apps for Tracking Your Fertility

One of the oldest contraceptive methods is making a big comeback these days. About 22 percent of women use fertility awareness methods (FAMs) according to the CDC, and that figure is increasing every year. More and more women are dropping condoms and the Pill, and picking up new apps that help track their fertility cycle. In […]

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What Lube Should I Use?

Confused about personal lube? Should you use lube? Which ones should you choose? What are the different types? What is best matched with condoms?  All the answers are made easy and accessible by sex educators Kate McCombs and Louise Bourchier in their video below. They explain why you should use lube, the different types of […]

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How to Safely Have Sex with a Yeast Infection

“My girlfriend sometimes has yeast infections.  Is it bad to have unprotected sex?” This question was posed to the CSPH (the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health) as part of their weekly Q&A series. It is a common misunderstanding that sex causes yeast infections. The fact is that sex alone is not the culprit. However, […]

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5 Myths About the Pull-Out Method, Corrected

The pull-out method (also known as “withdrawal” or “coitus interruptus”) involves the one with the penis to pull-out before he ejaculates. Health professionals do consider this a true method of birth control. Did you know that if the pull-out method is done correctly every time, it is almost as effective as using condoms to prevent […]

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I May Have Herpes. Now What?

Did you know that the Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV) is so common that many health professionals believe people should assume everyone has herpes and act accordingly? Yet, as common as Herpes is, it is surprising that most of us remain misinformed about how the infection spreads and how it can be prevented. One prevalent myth is […]


Condom Love: Find Out How Amazing Safer Sex Can Be…

You’ve probably been told how to use a condom but have you ever been told how to choose a condom? It’s not a one-size-fits-all proposition. There are sizes, shapes, materials, flavors, lubes- oh my! Melissa White, CEO of Lucky Bloke, to the rescue! She explains everything you need to know, from size to shape, from […]

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Which of These 4 Types of Female Condoms Is Right For You?

There are hundreds of condom options for penis protection available today, ranging in condom size, material, texture, flavors and more. When it comes to the receptive partner, however, there is only one option. The FC2 is the only internal or female condom approved by the FDA and available for purchase. (We use the common term […]

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Can I Get Pregnant If…? A Pregnancy Scare Companion

Do you think you (or your partner) might be pregnant? We get a lot of questions from readers wondering, “Can I get pregnant if…”. Bottom line: You can’t get pregnant from activities like petting or oral sex, only from activities in which semen comes in direct contact with the vagina. But what if there was […]

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Wanted: Men Who’d Benefit From a Snug Condom

Tired of condoms that slip and slide? Lucky Bloke can help! If you find condoms bought at the local drugstore too loose or baggy and often slip around, you are likely part of the 35% of men who require a smaller condom. This statistic may surprise you, but the fact is only 15% of men […]

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4 STI Myths That Get In The Way of a Healthier Sex Life

Think you know everything you need to know about STIs? You might be surprised. There is a lot of misinformation about sexual health and STIs (sexually transmitted infections) running amok. You’ve probably heard some of them (such as the myth that you can get an STI from a toilet seat). Here is Jenelle Marie, founder […]

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Sex School: Condoms = Cancer? Uh, No. (Part 3).

We’ve spoken out against the condom company, Sustain’s irresponsible marketing ploy which insinuates that many condoms cause cancer. The truth is there is no scientific evidence that any condoms are laden with harmful carcinogens. Now the greater sex education community is standing up against Sustain condoms.  The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health (the CSPH) has […]


WE NEED YOU: Join the #LustforLife Campaign

The #LustforLife Campaign shines a spotlight on the fact that nearly 70% of the 50,000 new HIV infections in the U.S. each year occur in urban communities. In fact, HIV prevalence in low-income urban areas throughout the U.S. is similar to that of countries where USAID has declared HIV epidemics. Among heterosexual people in urban […]

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What Is Cis-Gender?

Gender identity is one of those overlooked concepts in sex education and yet is a basic part of our sexual lives. It influences how we dress, what roles we play in relationships and, to a large extent, what we’re attracted to sexually. So why not incorporate discussions of gender identity within the framework of safer […]

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Some Lubes are Safer for Anal Sex

Educators have long recommended silicone lube for anal play. However, many also insist on using more low-cost, drug store-available water-based lubricants because water-based is compatible with all types of condoms. The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health (The CSPH) reports on a pair of studies that found that silicone lubricant may actually be an all-around […]

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What Is It Like to be Tested? STI/STD Testing in 5 Simple Steps

With all the stigma and fear surrounding sexually transmitted infections (STIs), going out of your way to specifically get tested can seem like a burden. According to the CDC, less than half of Americans ranging from 18 to 44 years old have never EVER been tested for STIs. This is a serious obstacle that cannot […]


Wetter Is Better: How to Choose the Right Lube

Natural lubrication is commonly believed to happen biologically for all women, all the time. In actuality, many women (and men) find that a little extra lube is worth the investment. Melissa White, CEO of Lucky Bloke, explains the “what” and “why” of the various lubricants available. Don’t miss her helpful video! This article is meant […]


How To Choose the Best Condoms for You (and Your Partner)!

When it comes to condom information, how do you know which are the best condoms? There exists thousands of variation that explain the same, step-by-step instructions of how to open a condom package, put it on, and dispose of the condom. Unfortunately, very few people learn anything else beyond that. This short-sighted approach allows for […]

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Drink and Be Merry: How to Party Safer

Due to many factors involved when it comes to heavy drink and party safety, one can be guaranteed complete security from STI and pregnancy prevention, or even communicating consent properly. However, it is not simply enough to say, “Don’t have sex when you are drunk.” In real life, sometimes when people party it can lead […]

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How to Tell a Sex Partner I Have an STD

A prerequisite to loving, healthy sexual partnership is trust and honesty. Thus, it is important for you and your sex partner to talk about your STI history and status (if one of you don’t know your status, why not get tested together?). Initiating disclosure can feel worrisome. How may you do it in a way […]

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When Your Own Kid Might Be Gay

How do you know if your child is gay? It’s hard to be certain because adolescence is often a time of experimenting sexually, often with both sexes. Studies tell us that it is not uncommon for adolescent boys to explore their sexuality with the same sex. If you suspect your child may be gay, do you, […]


Stop Sexual Health Censorship! JOIN US… #ythlive

    Are you frustrated about how social media giants often censor crucial sexual health advocacy? Do you have a story to tell about how you were censored? In June 2014, Lucky Bloke launched the #Tweet4Condoms campaign to call on Twitter to stop their stigmatizing policies that prevent companies and nonprofits that promote sexual health […]

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Virginity Myths and Facts: The Hymen

  The phrase “losing your virginity” is often used without much thought. When a girl loses her virginity, that means she has penetrative sex for the first time and she breaks her hymen, right? Not necessarily. As Bry’onna Mention of The CSPH (the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health) explains, defining virginity as having an intact […]