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How She Made a Condom Hater a Condom Lover

The folks at Condom Monologues share an all too familiar story: You're in the heat of the moment. Amazing sex is about to begin. So you reach for a condom. But just as you're about to strap it on your man, he goes limp. The lustful moment swiftly plummets to awkwardness. What do you do? We've all heard the excuse not to use condoms because they ruin sex. Many of us have experienced partners who hate condoms to the point that there is a real physical reaction against them. But there are ways to overcome condom hate and have even better safer sex. Condom Monologues demonstrate how a condom hater can be converted to a condom lover. The storyteller explains how she used this opportunity to teach her partner about proper condom fit and offers to explore new types and sizes with … [Read More...]


Seductive At Any Size

Every woman, whether she knows it or not, is a seductress. What is a “Sacred Seductress”? According to sex coach and writer, Kitty Cavalier, every woman- no matter her size, height, race, abilities, etc.- possesses the power of seduction. To be “sexy” comes from confidence in one’s self. Sexiness is knowing that you are “perfectly […]

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5 Ways to Have Hot (and Super Safe) Sex with Your Partner

Think you know everything about condoms? Condom use is basic, right? Just check the expiry date, unwrap and roll on. Well, according to Lucky Bloke’s Global Condom Review, most people aren’t equipped with important condom know-how that impacts how good a condom feels. As Melissa White, CEO of Lucky Bloke explains below, the majority of […]


Getting The Snip: Should It be Me or My Partner?

If you know that you don’t want more children or feel confident that you never want any, sterilization may be the right option for you. This is permanent birth control, so the decision should never be taken lightly. As Grace Shih discusses below, women who get the operation before they turn 30 years old are […]

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Breaking the Hush Factor: A New Book for Talking to Teens about Sex

A new book that teaches adults how to have meaningful discussions about sex with teenagers. Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten Rules for Talking to Teens about Sex is not your typical parenting book. It’s for parents and other adults with teenagers in their lives. It offers practical advice that is purposely inclusive of all genders […]

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4 Apps for Tracking Your Fertility

One of the oldest contraceptive methods is making a big comeback these days. About 22 percent of women use fertility awareness methods (FAMs) according to the CDC, and that figure is increasing every year. More and more women are dropping condoms and the Pill, and picking up new apps that help track their fertility cycle. In […]

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How to Safely Have Sex with a Yeast Infection

“My girlfriend sometimes has yeast infections.  Is it bad to have unprotected sex?” This question was posed to the CSPH (the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health) as part of their weekly Q&A series. It is a common misunderstanding that sex causes yeast infections. The fact is that sex alone is not the culprit. However, […]

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5 Myths About the Pull-Out Method, Corrected

The pull-out method (also known as “withdrawal” or “coitus interruptus”) involves the one with the penis to pull-out before he ejaculates. Health professionals do consider this a true method of birth control. Did you know that if the pull-out method is done correctly every time, it is almost as effective as using condoms to prevent […]

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I May Have Herpes. Now What?

Did you know that the Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV) is so common that many health professionals believe people should assume everyone has herpes and act accordingly? Yet, as common as Herpes is, it is surprising that most of us remain misinformed about how the infection spreads and how it can be prevented. One prevalent myth is […]


Condom Love: Find Out How Amazing Safer Sex Can Be…

You’ve probably been told how to use a condom but have you ever been told how to choose a condom? It’s not a one-size-fits-all proposition. There are sizes, shapes, materials, flavors, lubes- oh my! Melissa White, CEO of Lucky Bloke, to the rescue! She explains everything you need to know, from size to shape, from […]

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Which of These 4 Types of Female Condoms Is Right For You?

There are hundreds of condom options for penis protection available today, ranging in condom size, material, texture, flavors and more. When it comes to the receptive partner, however, there is only one option. The FC2 is the only internal or female condom approved by the FDA and available for purchase. (We use the common term […]

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Can I Get Pregnant If…? A Pregnancy Scare Companion

Do you think you (or your partner) might be pregnant? We get a lot of questions from readers wondering, “Can I get pregnant if…”. Bottom line: You can’t get pregnant from activities like petting or oral sex, only from activities in which semen comes in direct contact with the vagina. But what if there was […]

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Wanted: Men Who’d Benefit From a Snug Condom

Tired of condoms that slip and slide? Lucky Bloke can help! If you find condoms bought at the local drugstore too loose or baggy and often slip around, you are likely part of the 35% of men who require a smaller condom. This statistic may surprise you, but the fact is only 15% of men […]

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4 STI Myths That Get In The Way of a Healthier Sex Life

Think you know everything you need to know about STIs? You might be surprised. There is a lot of misinformation about sexual health and STIs (sexually transmitted infections) running amok. You’ve probably heard some of them (such as the myth that you can get an STI from a toilet seat). Here is Jenelle Marie, founder […]

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Sex School: Condoms = Cancer? Uh, No. (Part 3).

We’ve spoken out against the condom company, Sustain’s irresponsible marketing ploy which insinuates that many condoms cause cancer. The truth is there is no scientific evidence that any condoms are laden with harmful carcinogens. Now the greater sex education community is standing up against Sustain condoms.  The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health (the CSPH) has […]

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Condoms Breaking? You’re Probably Doing It Wrong

National Condom Week 2015 is here! From Feb. 14th to Feb. 21st, we are celebrating by providing a new article every day by prominent sexual health advocates focused on condom use and education. Here is Heather Corrina, sex educator and founder of Scarleteen, discussing the common reasons why condoms break. The truth is that condom […]


WE NEED YOU: Join the #LustforLife Campaign

The #LustforLife Campaign shines a spotlight on the fact that nearly 70% of the 50,000 new HIV infections in the U.S. each year occur in urban communities. In fact, HIV prevalence in low-income urban areas throughout the U.S. is similar to that of countries where USAID has declared HIV epidemics. Among heterosexual people in urban […]

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What Is Cis-Gender?

Gender identity is one of those overlooked concepts in sex education and yet is a basic part of our sexual lives. It influences how we dress, what roles we play in relationships and, to a large extent, what we’re attracted to sexually. So why not incorporate discussions of gender identity within the framework of safer […]

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Some Lubes are Safer for Anal Sex

Educators have long recommended silicone lube for anal play. However, many also insist on using more low-cost, drug store-available water-based lubricants because water-based is compatible with all types of condoms. The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health (The CSPH) reports on a pair of studies that found that silicone lubricant may actually be an all-around […]

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When to get Tested for STIs/STDs

Did you know that when you’ve been exposed to a sexually transmitted infection (STI) there is a duration of time in which the infection cannot be detectable through testing? This is referred to as the window period. During this window period, the infected person can pass on the STI to others. This is why, when […]


Wetter Is Better: How to Choose the Right Lube

Natural lubrication is commonly believed to happen biologically for all women, all the time. In actuality, many women (and men) find that a little extra lube is worth the investment. Melissa White, CEO of Lucky Bloke, explains the “what” and “why” of the various lubricants available. Don’t miss her helpful video! This article is meant […]


How To Choose the Best Condoms for You (and Your Partner)!

When it comes to condom information, how do you know which are the best condoms? There exists thousands of variation that explain the same, step-by-step instructions of how to open a condom package, put it on, and dispose of the condom. Unfortunately, very few people learn anything else beyond that. This short-sighted approach allows for […]

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Drink and Be Merry: How to Party Safer

Due to many factors involved when it comes to heavy drink and party safety, one can be guaranteed complete security from STI and pregnancy prevention, or even communicating consent properly. However, it is not simply enough to say, “Don’t have sex when you are drunk.” In real life, sometimes when people party it can lead […]

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How to Tell a Sex Partner I Have an STD

A prerequisite to loving, healthy sexual partnership is trust and honesty. Thus, it is important for you and your sex partner to talk about your STI history and status (if one of you don’t know your status, why not get tested together?). Initiating disclosure can feel worrisome. How may you do it in a way […]

When it comes to the condom, it will always be a friend you can depend on, especially if you use it right.

A Guy’s Guide to Condoms

Condoms are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy when used correctly and consistently. However, most people don’t use it perfectly every time. So the folks at Bedsider have created a fun two and a half minute video made specifically for young men about condoms and condom use. We think it’s a great video because it focuses […]

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The Female Condom: Will It Get Stuck Inside Me?

The FC2 female condom (a.k.a. the “internal condom”) is one of the most recent innovations in safer sex technology. Beside standard condoms, the FC2 is the only other option that protects against both STIs and accidental pregnancy. However, because it is so different from traditional roll-on condoms, many are weary of using female condoms. One […]

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The Golden Rule to Healthy Hook-Ups

Girl meets boy. They become friends and soon enough, they are hooking up on a regular basis. No love, no commitments – they only do it for the purpose of having sex! Casual sex has been portrayed in contradictory fashion throughout history. It’s deemed a mortal enemy of love and commitment. People who engage in […]