We often learn about menstruation in early sex education, usually around the time when female students are starting their periods. Typically boys and girls are separated from each other to talk “in private” and taught about deodorant, pubic hair, disposable pads and tampons. However, there are more choices when it comes to menstrual flow than what is often taught in sex ed class.
Sex educator, Kate McCombs expands on those options from a pleasure-inclusive perspective, offering four things that will make your period easier and sexier. She talks about how menstruation doesn’t have to be an unsexy obstacle or messy hassle of “ragging it”. Here are her practical tips to relieve any discomfort and embrace menstruation as a vital sign of good health.
Revisit the way you relate to your period and take a look at these lesser known products she recommends.
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BY KATE MCCOMBS | KateMcCombs.com
Managing a period isn’t always easy. For those of us with uteruses who are post-puberty and pre-menopause, learning to care for oneself during menstruation is both a rite of passage and a necessary life skill.
In school, the sex ed we got (if we were lucky) included things like how to use maxi pads and tampons or how to use a hot pad for cramps. But there are some grown-up period management skills that I didn’t learn in my middle school health class.
This post is all about those things – the things I learned as an adult that make that time of the month go more smoothly.
1. Silicone menstrual cups. Reusable silicone menstrual cups, like the Diva Cup and Lunette, have become an essential instrument in my period-management tool kit. They’re soft and flexible, about the size of a shot glass, and shaped like the cup portion of a wine glass. They last for years, are eco-friendly, and can be worn for up to 12 hours at a time during light flow days.
My favorite thing about menstrual cups: For folks who are concerned about containing the blood, the cup makes it easier to receive oral sex during your period. If you insert it in the shower and rinse off, blood doesn’t get outside your body until you empty your cup again.
To learn more about them, check out this piece I wrote called “Why I <3 Menstrual Cups”.
2. Liberator Throe. It’s velvet on one side, satin on the other, and it’s designed to keep lube and bodily fluids off your bedding. Any liquids the Throe comes into contact with will not seep through the fabric, so it keeps your sheets and upholstery clean.
You can see how this makes period sex easier. Just throw down the Throe, and period sex can be more spontaneous and easier to clean up.
3. Black nitrile gloves. When Andy and I were discussing the Throe for period sex, he mentioned to me that he often gets questions about safer sex during menstruation from customers in the Good Vibrations stores.
Andy Duran of Good Vibrations store suggestion for both sexier safer sex and a sexier period: black nitrile gloves. If you happen to be bothered or turned off by the sight of blood, these gloves make it less obvious because of the dark color.
It’s also easy to turn them inside out when you’re taking them off so any blood stays contained. And how hot is a tight-fitting black glove?
4. Dear Kate underwear. These amazing stain- and leak-resistant panties are designed to be backups for whatever menstrual product you’re using. They’re cute, comfortable, and made in the USA. Not to mention they have an awesome name 😉
The CEO of Dear Kate, Julie Sygiel, has an engineering background and spent two years developing the first line of Dear Kate panties. She created a problem-solving product designed to make a period feel sexier.
(An off-label use for Dear Kates: wear them as post-coital panties at any time of the month for containing any lube and bodily fluids that escape when gravity takes effect.)
KATE MCCOMBS is a NYC-based sex educator, writer, and maker of puns. Ultimately, all of Kate’s work is about helping people feel more comfortable talking about sex. She believes that meaningful conversations + accurate information can help us create a healthier and more pleasure-filled world. Kate writes articles and teaches workshops about sexual health, pleasure, and communication.
Follow Kate on Twitter @katecom